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Using Self-Compassion to Overcome the Shame of Being Abandoned

What is shame in the first place? It’s a fundamental feeling that you have done something wrong or that there is something wrong with you and others can see it. We all have shortcomings that we’d rather the world not know about but when your husband walks away from the marriage, it may feel like your secret flaws are broadcasted to the whole world.

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When He Abandons You, Don't Abandon Yourself

You need to become a fighter for your own happiness and get defiantly determined to grab hold of your life and, no matter what stage you’re at, put one foot in front of the other and craft the next chapter. Your ex doesn’t get to define you. You do! And you don’t need to be perfect to love yourself.

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It’s Time to Dial Down Your Ex’s Power Over You

My wish for you is that you turn down his power to upset you so that rather than getting wounded or outraged, you can say, “There he goes again - I know his tricks and ways!” My wish is that you will be able to remember that the thing he did to hurt you today, won’t hurt so much in three days . . .

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What Alice Herz-Sommer Taught Me About Life

The Lady in Number 6 touched my soul, not because of the experience Alice Sommers had in the camps but because of the person she was and her approach towards life. She was born an optimist and was always laughing, even in the camps.

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How long does it take to recover from Wife Abandonment?

If your happiness is dependent on you living the life you had in the past, then you will never be happy again because that life is over. But perhaps, you need to make a new definition of what constitutes your future life and potential happiness. Rather than focusing on all you have lost, can you tally up all you still have? . . .


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