Divorce

Why did it hurt so bad when your husband left?

Why did it hurt so bad when your husband left?

Rejection, betrayal and the loss of the dream of your future all figure into why it hurts so bad, but there is an even deeper reason. Attachment injury touches you in a primal place making that sudden loss of attachment feel like a physical assault.

How Can I Trust Again?

How Can I Trust Again?

You really have two choices. You can close up shop and not risk any new relationship which means that you will be safe but also may miss out on the pleasure of having someone in your life. Or, you can open your heart wisely, taking a chance with no assurances but being willing to expand your life to admit someone else . . .

3 Tips to Help You Get Through Thanksgiving Without Too Many Tears

3 Tips to Help You Get Through Thanksgiving Without Too Many Tears

This year, the holidays are going to be a doozie. You not only have to deal with the pain of remembering happy Thanksgivings past when you celebrated with your husband and the family but you also may have to be planning a quiet meal with just the few people allowed in your bubble . . .

Another Father's Day Without My Dad

Another Father's Day Without My Dad

Now as I approach another Father’s Day without my dad, I wonder if there are others like my sister and I, adult children of runaway husbands trying to figure out why other divorced dads maintain a relationship with their kids, but our dad chooses to stay absent from us and his grandchildren . . .

Don't Blame Yourself if You Didn't See it Coming

Don't Blame Yourself if You Didn't See it Coming

When something happens that doesn’t fit the pattern, we don’t let it penetrate. That new odd piece of information just skitters off our brains and we reject it. It takes time for us to be able to let it in, particularly when doing so threatens our sense of security . . .